Learning about death acceptance: Part 2

Finding solace: Make peace with the circle of life

Religion and spirituality

In some cases, people with religious and/or spiritual beliefs can accept death with the understanding that death is not the end. These practitioners believe they will have an afterlife, be reincarnated, or transition to another stage of existence. This brings a measure of comfort to those who are prepared to see their loved ones again or continue their eternal life after death.

Of course, how people practice their faith and spirituality is an incredibly personal decision for each person. If you would like to embrace your beliefs or explore new ones, that is your decision to make.

Speak to your spiritual leader about your interest in death acceptance and to learn about how your beliefs can provide guidance.

Make the most of every day

Seize the day.
Live every day like it’s your last.
You only live once.

Some accept death by doing the opposite – embracing life. Knowing that our time on earth will end makes every new day an invaluable time to cherish. Here are a few ways you can always appreciate the wonders of life:

Enjoy little things – Try to reflect or act on something you enjoy every day, even if it’s as simple as listening to birdsong on a scenic walk, chatting with a friend, watching a feel-good show, or whipping up your favorite meal.
Tell your loved ones why they’re important to you – It never hurts to tell your loved ones exactly how you feel about them, even if you assume they already know. Tell them you love them, you’re proud of them, or that you’re glad they’re part of your life. Many take comfort in knowing nothing was left unsaid when the time comes.
Lead a life you can be proud of – Many healthcare professionals report that in the end, some people wish they had chased the life they truly wanted. While certain circumstances may impede our progress at times, be encouraged to live life to the fullest; this may help you feel peace and content when the time comes.
Take care of yourself – From our heart and lungs to our brain and skin, every organ and cell in our body works incredibly hard every day. When you can, take the time to show your body some appreciation by treating yourself well. Being physically active, eating healthy meals, and tending to your mental health will greatly improve your quality of life.
Don’t forget the peaks – Sometimes, we only listen to our bodies if we’re experiencing aches, pains, or illness. Life can be the same way: When we’re facing new challenges or difficult experiences, it’s human nature to be on high alert and ruminate over our issues. But in these moments, be gentle with yourself and remember the positive (steps 1-4). Your resilience will help you face whatever life may bring.

The path is well-trodden

Did you know that there are insects that only live for a day, sharks that live for over two hundred years, and undersea sponges that have lived for tens of thousands of years?

Whether it comes sooner or later, death is one of the birthrights we inherit from Mother Nature. There can be a sense of connection when considering that when we die, we are joining countless organisms who have gone before us.

In fact, many organisms continue to benefit their ecosystem after death, whether it’s a fallen tree providing shelter, or a creature providing sustenance to another.

For people who want to continue the cycle of life or environmental stewardship after death, there are a few options available: Someone may register to be an organ donor, or pursue natural burial options like green burial or sea burial.

When the time comes, the departed who is giving life to another, or returning to the earth, can rest knowing they are providing the greatest gift they can offer.

The sense of connection also extends to the billions of people who have gone before us and the ones who will follow. There can be some comfort in knowing that after we are gone, humanity will continue to live on.

Learning about your family’s genealogy, human history, and different cultures is a great way to develop an appreciation for those who have already accepted death.

If you have severe anxiety surrounding death, it is especially difficult to find solace in death acceptance. Severe anxiety can include excessive worries about the death (yours or your loved ones’) and dying. If you are anxious to the point that it interferes with your daily life, it may be time to seek professional assistance.

In the next article on death acceptance, learn about the final avenue of this important journey: Taking control.

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